The reason I was asking what you meant by normal is that it seems to me like this is one area where there's a lot of variance between people just in general. In the words you just used, I would think it would be a lot more useful to consider what's "tolerable for _you_" than what's "typical". And personally, for me, when I've thought about crying intensity and frequency in the context of what I think is "typical", it's only set myself up for lots and lots of feeling bad about myself. But I wouldn't presume to think that my issues = your issues! So I was just asking how you were using the word and, in a larger sense, what your goal is with respect to how you were using it.

Um, does that make any sense at all?